Be Heard, Without Saying a Word

By October 3, 2018style

Recently in Stacey Andon’s MapMakers, we did a guided meditation that helped us connect with our ideal client, or IC.  During the mediation we asked our IC what she most wanted.  Mine said she wanted to be heard, even without speaking.  Meaning she wants to become her most confident and radiant self, through her authentic style.

And knowing that our ideal clients are actually extensions of ourselves, I thought about what I want.  I’m not controversial, yet I have strong opinions and beliefs.  I don’t have a forceful personality, yet I’m not a wall-flower.  I don’t look for conflict, yet I’ll get scrappy if needed.  I don’t seek fame and fortune, yet I want to feel appreciated.  I love to listen, and I want to be listened to.  Simply put, I want to be heard, in my own extroverted-introvert way.

For example, maybe if it’s one of those days I don’t want to be seen,  I can still silently say, “I’m sporty and put-together,” while wearing cargo pants, a colorful fleece, a cute ball-cap and of course, a rosy lip balm. That way I’m covered and I don’t feel like a schlump.

But if my extroverted side were to be in command, you’d mostly likely hear me shouting I’m sassy, fun-loving and unique in my swing-dress, black leggings, combat boots and bomber jacket…. all without muttering a word.

Now it’s your turn. Imagine you’re on a stage in an auditorium filled with people.  Stand there silently for 30 seconds.  What would the audience hear? Are you happy with what you’re saying?

In Jen Coakley, owner of Jenskin Studio’s case, the audience would hear peacefulness, humor, kindness and low-key, sexy confidence

Audrey Watson, owner of Aucala Creative Co is silently saying I’m confident, fresh, articulate, and I have an eye for great style!

Lisa Baldino, owner of Turn of Phrase Marketing, silently exudes classic style, professionalism and savviness, while being extremely approachable.

And Bev Smith, Realtor and Listing Specialist with Tessier Real Estate is telling us she’s down-to-earth, warm, fun and knows her stuff.

I believe we all want to be heard, but what we silently say is up to us.  I hope you rock it! ?