Are You Showing Up as the Real You?

By | workshops and classes

Several years ago, when I made a style presentation to an accounting firm, I wore a business suit because a) I thought it was appropriate/respectful and b) I thought I should mimic what people in the firm were wearing.  But the business suit absolutely did not represent the true me, and here’s why: it wasn’t authentic, my style by nature is much less structured.  I only wore the suit once – for that presentation. I did however mix and match the blazer and skirt with other separates to create new looks. This helped fuel my desire to be creative and unique, two important components of what I now call my style intention.

As I became more confident in my personal style, I started wearing dresses and un-suits (burnt orange top, black skirt, black cardigan) for presentations, but I still wondered if I should present in more “official” corporate attire. I consulted my friend and Life Coach Stacey Andon (pink sweater).  Stacey validated what I instinctively knew, but hadn’t been ready to grasp: authenticity always wins. My sister Val made a great point too – she said, “Of course you’ve got to be respectful of your audience, but by also being authentic, you’re more interesting.”  Sold!

Professional Skin Care Therapist Jen Coakley (red tank and boot cut jeans) of Jenskin Studios is drawn to bohemian styles. Her hubby Pat is also a big fan of Jen’s boho look, though his feelings wouldn’t be hurt if she were to just say NO to mullet-shirts (thank you Jen Snyder 😉) and long shirts with jeans. Let’s just say Pat wants Jen’s backside to make more of a showing. So….. Jen and I came up with a look that’s true to her, while also making Pat a happy camper.  She’s so dang cute! You’re welcome Pat.

Do you feel your current wardrobe truly represents your authentic self?  Do you have pieces you wear just to fit in or because you think you’re supposed to wear them? What if you could get rid of the should’s and supposed-to’s in favor of being you all the time?  Please join Life Coach Stacey Andon and Personal Stylist Wendy Wright on Saturday, September 30th, as we invite you to DISCOVER YOUR AUTHENTIC MAGIC.

Rich Toasted

By | style component: color

Jen Snyder of Jen Snyder, Motherhood Blogger-Photographer and I are still working on this great blog series about finding the best colors for you based on your coloring and your personality. This month’s post is all about Rich Toasted, as modeled by the lovely Charma. When I saw Charma in the leather jacket, hat and scarf outfit, I knew those were her colors. Why? Because her complexion was glowing and she was oozing confidence. Read on to learn about how her skin tone, hair color, and personality combine to a color palette that looks great on her. But wait, there’s more! Here’s Charma in our collaborative Winter Style Guide.

* Dominant Color Temperature: Warm – with some cool 

* Skin Tone: Golden-Dark

* Hair Color: Black

* Eye Color: Dark Brown

*Coloring Contrast Level: Medium

(Charma’s beautiful golden-dark skin tone is lighter than her hair and eyes, therefore a medium contrast in her clothing choices will work nicely with her natural coloring)

* Personality: kind, smart, grounded, determined and serene

* Color Resonance as it relates to personality: Rich Toasted 

(Resonance is the visual impression of a hue in relation to the pure pigment.  It is the result of how a pigment is lightened or darkened.  The 5 resonance qualities are:

Washed = pure pigment + thinned with water , colors appear clear, pretty and crisp

Tinted =  pure pigment + white, colors appear light hearted, sweet and innocent

Shaded = pure pigment + black, colors appear serious, profound and mysterious

Toasted = pure pigment + brown, colors appear warm, mellow and luscious

Muted = pure pigment + complement color,  colors appear soft, gentle and subtle

**Color Resonance Reference – The Triumph of Individual Style by Carla Mathis and Helen Villa Connor**

Standing Room Only?

By | lifestyle, style

A couple of weeks ago while scanning my closet for things to purge, I pulled out “Ole Yeller.”  I had only worn her once this summer, so I decided to do a day-test, that is, wear her for the day to see if I still liked her enough to keep her.

Later that morning I met a few friends for coffee.  As soon as I walked into the café, they complimented me on Yeller, and even suggested I wear her  for a style video I was shooting later that day.  Flattered by the compliments and not listening to my gut, I wore her.

Here’s what I learned: Listen to your gut, especially when you don’t want to bring attention to it. HAA! I liked the top whilst standing, but when it came to sitting, all bets were off.  You see, in the seated position, Yeller became clingy, making me feel quite self-conscious of my torso area.  I became a mini-diva, as I couldn’t find what I thought to be a flattering position to sit in.  I had to change into pants from a skort, thinking that would camouflage my tummy more.  It didn’t help. And as Richard Wilmore of The Richard Wilmore Show filmed a conversation between Kathy Wise of Streetwise and myself, I was sweating buckets, not only because it was a 1000 degrees outside, but because I was uncomfortable/self conscious  in Yeller.  I don’t even know what the hell I said in our conversation.  I hope it made some sense because Kathy and I talked about 2 great topics: 1) what to wear when you’ve lost a lot of weight and 2) the importance of situational awareness if exercising outside alone (please see the attached videos).

Standing room only? I think not.  Life’s too damn short to waste time feeling that self conscious.  Therefore, Ole Yeller is in the “donate” pile, but in her honor, I’m going to find another lemon-yellow top or dress that I feel terrific wearing.

True Tinted

By | color

April is our second model in the Color Series and she’s one whirlwind of sun-shiny energy.  She’s  always on the go, be it protecting animals with The Humane Society or Baltimore Bully Crew, training a for power-lifting competition, traveling the globe, or just working her day job as a paralegal.

* Dominant Color Temperature: Warm

* Skin Tone: Peaches-n-Cream

* Hair Color: Golden-Blonde

* Eye Color: Light-almost aqua-blue

*Coloring  Contrast Level: Low-Medium

(April has light-ish hair and skin, with striking blue eyes. High contrast clothing such as black and white are not the most harmonizing with her coloring, yet her strong personality could handle the contrast.)

* Personality: High Energy, Passionate, Adventurous, Tenacious, Vulnerable

Color Resonance at it relates to personality: True Tinted 

true tinted

(Resonance is the visual impression of a hue in relation to the pure pigment.  It is the result of how a pigment is lightened or darkened.  The 5 resonance qualities are: 

Washed = pure pigment + thinned with water , colors appear clear, pretty and crisp

Tinted =  pure pigment + white, colors appear light hearted, sweet and innocent

Shaded = pure pigment + black, colors appear serious, profound and mysterious

Toasted = pure pigment + brown, colors appear warm, mellow and luscious

Muted = pure pigment + complement color,  colors appear soft, gentle and subtle

**Color Resonance Reference – The Triumph of Individual Style by Carla Mathis and Helen Villa Connor**

Numbing Right Along

By | lifestyle

In the last couple months I’ve been experiencing a kind of numbness.  Not sadness, not depression, but something more reminiscent of  Seinfeld’s David Puddy staring blankly into space.  I began to withdraw from social media, networking and other functions, simply because my heart wasn’t in it. I was even a bit slow to respond to non-emergency friends and family correspondence, knowing they would allow me non-judgmental space.  In the past, I would’ve beaten myself up with guilt or the fear of missing out, for not participating in everything I thought I should have.

 

But then something cool happened, I gave myself a break.  I decided to honor my numbness and not shove it into some little compartment.  Recently I’ve had some wonderful coffee chats with good friends who have experienced similar comatose states (lol) and I’m currently reading a few timely and enlightening books. There’s a reason I feel this way and it’s giving me an opportunity to grow and evolve.  No doubt being 51, approaching menopause and the current idiotic political climate has contributed to my state of numbness, yet I feel a sense of excitement.  I see and feel a spiritual and emotional shift happening.  I absolutely know who I want to spend time with and how I don’t want to waste time with negative BS.  I’ve become much more clear about what being a personal stylist and personal trainer means to me.  With styling it’s so not about the trends, clothes, shoes or jewelry.  It is about how those things, when they work with our shape, coloring and personality, can finally allow a woman to see her boundless potential.  I’ve discovered the more women I help in finding their authentic style, the more authentic and inspired I become.  There is nothing better than seeing a huge smile break out on the face of a client-friend when she finally  sees herself the way I see her: strong, beautiful and unstoppable.  In other words, when she “finds her shine.”  And after  years of personal training, I invoked my own velvet rope policy, and that alone was a huge dumbbell lifted from my shoulders (bit of strength training humor for ya). The people I’m fortunate to work with are not only fun to be around, but they truly care about their health and wellbeing.

I can already feel some of my Puddy-esque fog lifting, but if you happen to see me staring blankly into space, no worries, I’m just embracing the numb. 😉