Case Studies in Making an Effort

By | style

A couple of months ago while clothes scouting at TJMaxx, I ran into Nettie Owens, Productivity Consultant and owner of Sappari Consulting. She looked amazing in a simple wrap dress, kitten heeled – nude pumps, and minimal makeup. I asked her if she had an important meeting to go to and she informed me she did not.  I admit, I was a little surprised to see her dressed so professionally when she didn’t have to meet with a client, and yet I was proud of Nettie. You see, she had hired The Wright Fit two years prior to help her tweak and update her wardrobe. It had taken. Nettie told me she had been working from home and then had some errands to run. She said dressing professionally and feeling good about how she was presenting herself made her much more productive.  Boy oh boy do I get that.

Here are a few more thoughts on the subject in my Style File Side Bar in the current Harford’s Heart Magazine:

 

 

Be Heard, Without Saying a Word

By | style

Recently in Stacey Andon’s MapMakers, we did a guided meditation that helped us connect with our ideal client, or IC.  During the mediation we asked our IC what she most wanted.  Mine said she wanted to be heard, even without speaking.  Meaning she wants to become her most confident and radiant self, through her authentic style.

And knowing that our ideal clients are actually extensions of ourselves, I thought about what I want.  I’m not controversial, yet I have strong opinions and beliefs.  I don’t have a forceful personality, yet I’m not a wall-flower.  I don’t look for conflict, yet I’ll get scrappy if needed.  I don’t seek fame and fortune, yet I want to feel appreciated.  I love to listen, and I want to be listened to.  Simply put, I want to be heard, in my own extroverted-introvert way.

For example, maybe if it’s one of those days I don’t want to be seen,  I can still silently say, “I’m sporty and put-together,” while wearing cargo pants, a colorful fleece, a cute ball-cap and of course, a rosy lip balm. That way I’m covered and I don’t feel like a schlump.

But if my extroverted side were to be in command, you’d mostly likely hear me shouting I’m sassy, fun-loving and unique in my swing-dress, black leggings, combat boots and bomber jacket…. all without muttering a word.

Now it’s your turn. Imagine you’re on a stage in an auditorium filled with people.  Stand there silently for 30 seconds.  What would the audience hear? Are you happy with what you’re saying?

In Jen Coakley, owner of Jenskin Studio’s case, the audience would hear peacefulness, humor, kindness and low-key, sexy confidence

Audrey Watson, owner of Aucala Creative Co is silently saying I’m confident, fresh, articulate, and I have an eye for great style!

Lisa Baldino, owner of Turn of Phrase Marketing, silently exudes classic style, professionalism and savviness, while being extremely approachable.

And Bev Smith, Realtor and Listing Specialist with Tessier Real Estate is telling us she’s down-to-earth, warm, fun and knows her stuff.

I believe we all want to be heard, but what we silently say is up to us.  I hope you rock it! 😉

Alisha’s Story – A Shine Time Special on Increasing Confidence

By | Shine Time

“Thanks for featuring my story and the theme of Plus Sizes! I want women of all sizes to know that they have the right and deserve to feel good every day! xoxo
Alisha

Alisha was referred to me two years ago by Maura McCarthy, owner of Remedy Wellness, and I could not be more thankful!! Finally, and after lots of hounding by me, Alisha agreed to be a Shine Timefeature. Because we’ve worked together for several years (seasonal closet-edits and personal shopping trips), Alisha and I have discovered there are a lot of stylish plus-size clothing options out thereOptions to help you rock your style and shine like you’re meant to! Alisha, I can’t thank you enough for your real and positive perspectives. THANK YOU!

So without further ado, here’s my incredibly supportive client and even better …. my amazing friend Alisha, answering two important questions for us.

How has discovering (and continued discovery of) your authentic style impacted your life?
I think discovering my authentic style is an evolving process, but I’ve found that it’s definitely boosted my confidence in both my personal and professional life. When I wear something I feel good in that automatically translates to how I hold and present myself to the world, and the world often notices. Before I started expanding my wardrobe, I wore nondescript black v-neck tops and cardigans or blazers, partly because I was frustrated with the limited options out there for plus sizes. While I may have been presentable, these choices weren’t doing much for me. When I was on a date several years ago, my date mentioned the store Torrid to me. He said they had a lot of great clothing options. I’m guessing this was a polite reference to my choice of date outfit. While that date didn’t go anywhere, my love affair with Torrid officially began and I immediately started expanding my wardrobe with flowy, colorful blouses, better-fitting jeans and more form-fitting cardigans, and even a dress!

I branched out with this first step and then when I started working with Wendy, I took more risks. I’m not exaggerating when I say that any item Wendy has helped me choose has always gotten positive feedback from others (even when I was hesitant to choose a particular item!). It’s still an evolving process and I may not get it right every day, but I love how I feel when I’m in something I feel good in! In this past year, I’ve gotten a promotion at work and have recently started dipping back into the online dating world. I think that finding my authentic style has contributed to both of these things. We all deserve to feel great in what we wear, regardless of what our size may be! I encourage everyone to take risks with their wardrobes–I promise it will pay off!

What are your favorite stores?
I’m thrilled that there are more options out there for plus sizes than there used to be and it keeps expanding.  The days of plus sizes being hidden away in dark corners next to the furniture sections of stores are starting to change, thanks in part also to online shopping options.

Some of my favorite stores are:

Amaryllis Handcrafted Jewelry–it’s my absolute favorite, and they give everyone a 25% discount on an item on their birthday every year!
Bra-la-la–finding a good bra is so important!
Torrid–don’t be fooled by the many Disney-themed or skull-themed items, if you look, you’ll find beautiful flower patterns or solids, and great jeans!
Dressbarn  has become a more recent favorite–I wore a t-shirt and boyfriend jeans from there out to dinner with a friend this week and she complimented me on my outfit.
Macy’s–great for capri pants.
DSW–great inexpensive jewelry options that look more expensive than they are. I always get compliments on my DSW purchases.
Land’s End–fantastic bathing suits. I love their tankinis and swim short/skirt options.
Target–I just bought a great AVA raincoat for the fall!
Nordstrom Rack–have found some fantastic tops and cardigans.
Kohl’s–love their Vera Wang tops and Apt. 9 cardigans!

I’m starting to experiment with some online places and recently ordered some items from Simply Be and am also looking at Modcloth. There are more and more options available now so I encourage anyone who is plus size (or any size!) to look into what else is out there by looking into blogs and other online sources.  It takes some work, but in the end it’s worth it to feel confident in what you wear and have a lot of options at your fingertips! You’re worth it!
Alisha

P.S. The current issue (September 2018) of The Oprah Magazine has an excellent feature on Plus-Sizes including: Plus-size history, beautiful style guides, models, role-models and designers.  Check it out!

I’m Your Clothes Sleuth

By | style services

Let’s say you HATE or don’t have the time for hours of clothes shopping. Did you know The Wright Fit offers Personal Shopping/Scouting Services? In other words, you let me know what you’re looking for, and I’ll go to the local stores and curate outfits for you based on your style intention, profile and budget. Then you follow up at the stores on your own time. It’s our take on the “clothing box subscription,” combined with affordable, local personal shopping and styling.

Benefits:

  • Saves you time – the outfit ideas have already been created for you
  • Saves you $$ – no aimless shopping, we’ll adhere to your style intention and budget
  • Fresh perspectives – you’ll see outfit ideas you may not have considered
  • It’s convenient/local – all scouting is done in Harford Co/Bel Air area

Features:

  • via email, you will receive collage boards with locations, pictures, sizes and prices of the curated outfits or pieces (see collage examples)
  • with appropriate scheduling, items can be put on hold for you at participating local stores, then it’s up to you to go try them on within 24 hours

At this moment, we offer 2 scout packages

  •  1 – 2 outfit ideas with emailed style collages – $75.00
  •  3 – 4 outfit ideas with emailed style collages – $100.00

***If this interests you, please contact me at wendy@thewrightfit.net for scheduling and terms + conditions.***

Please watch this 1 minute video to learn more!

This is Not About Weight Loss……

By | lifestyle

Am I the only person who finds it challenging not to gain weight in the summer?  I much prefer exercising outdoors in cool, crisp and even cold weather.  So unless I exercise early morning in the summer, my activity level can take a dive when it’s hot and humid.  It also doesn’t help when I visit my Mom or Much Older Sis (both of whom I’ve recently visited). Why? Because they’re 2 of the bestest cooks known to humankind, and I overeat their cooking – that’s why!

Nor am I one of those all or nothing people.  When it’s not Mom or Val’s cooking, moderation works best for me. The mere thought of any kind of elimination diet automatically makes me want the food that’s being eliminated.  Even if it was the “lamb and salmon free diet,” I would probably crave both, and I can’t stand either.

Therefore, summer time is a time of weight maintenance for this gal. If that resonates with you, here are some things that help me stay on track:

** Keep Val and Mom visits to a minimum – HAAAA!

** I love the Vagabond Sandwich CompanyAviator Salad with their Fried Chicken on top.  The fried chicken is the treat, so no chips.

** I have one, maybe two, of these bite sized Sea Salt Caramel cookies after dinner.  I make a double batch and bake them in 2 pans, like brownies. Once cooled and cut into bite size pieces, I put them in a plastic bag and freeze them. Scrumptilicious!

** When it comes to exercise, one tool I can’t be without is my Garmin pedometer. I don’t care about the other bells and whistles, just the step tracker.  My goal is to get in at least 30 minutes of structured exercise (strength training and/or walk) and 10,000+ steps per day.  If no structured exercise happens to happen, then the 10,000 steps are a must. I was at 9,943 steps yesterday by 3:00 pm and ended up with over 13,000. Acceptable.

Do you have any gems of weight maintenance wisdom for those of us who choose moderation? If so, would love to hear them.

I’ll leave you with this extremely refreshing and sweet-tooth- satiating, fruit dish Much Older Sis made last weekend. Spritz bite sized pieces of chilled watermelon, pineapple and fresh mint with lime juice. Gently mix and serve in pretty bowl or on a platter. Simply delicious.