Have you ever apologized for being a little more “polished” than you’re used to? An entrepreneur friend of mine, who dresses quite casually day to day, did just that at a recent networking event. Funny thing was, she looked fantastic, just the way you’d want your marketing specialist to look: professionally approachable, confident and creative.
And full disclosure, I used to do the same thing…. a lot, especially when I was figuring out my own personal style. It was as if I felt bad about feeling good. Deep down I was probably a bit self conscious of my newly found confidence. Wow, a psychologist could have a field day with that, right? But if you’re a business owner, entrepreneur, or you just want to feel better about yourself, what you put forth in the world, including your personal style, shapes not only YOUR self perception, but also the perception of how others see you.
Think of the power in that. Right now, if you don’t feel great about your appearance, or you have no idea what your style is, ask yourself what you want others to see about you, but more importantly, ask yourself what you want to see when you look in the mirror. Then take a step in that direction. If you have a closet full of corporate attire, but you’re working in a more relaxed environment or retired, it’s time to make some wardrobe changes. And guess what? This can be so much fun!
In my case, I want to see, and want you to see, that I’m not trying to be anyone other than myself. I don’t live for fashion, but I love to feel and look sassy, confident and tree/mountain-top grounded. I love the outdoors, mountains, wildlife, laughing, cherry-pink tinted lip gloss and tons of print dresses! (HA) This is what I attempt to project, because when I finally released the notion that I had to look a certain way, it was immensely empowering.
So the next time you feel yourself about to apologize for looking great, receive that compliment with a huge smile and a “thank you,” while allowing yourself to feel THE POWER of the authentic POLISH.
And who knows, maybe we’ll run into each other summiting a mountain….or climbing a tree. 😉
A couple of months ago while clothes scouting at TJMaxx, I ran into Nettie Owens, Productivity Consultant and owner of Sappari Consulting. She looked amazing in a simple wrap dress, kitten heeled – nude pumps, and minimal makeup. I asked her if she had an important meeting to go to and she informed me she did not. I admit, I was a little surprised to see her dressed so professionally when she didn’t have to meet with a client, and yet I was proud of Nettie. You see, she had hired The Wright Fit two years prior to help her tweak and update her wardrobe. It had taken. Nettie told me she had been working from home and then had some errands to run. She said dressing professionally and feeling good about how she was presenting herself made her much more productive. Boy oh boy do I get that.
Here are a few more thoughts on the subject in my Style File Side Bar in the current Harford’s Heart Magazine:
Recently in Stacey Andon’s MapMakers, we did a guided meditation that helped us connect with our ideal client, or IC. During the mediation we asked our IC what she most wanted. Mine said she wanted to be heard, even without speaking. Meaning she wants to become her most confident and radiant self, through her authentic style.
And knowing that our ideal clients are actually extensions of ourselves, I thought about what I want. I’m not controversial, yet I have strong opinions and beliefs. I don’t have a forceful personality, yet I’m not a wall-flower. I don’t look for conflict, yet I’ll get scrappy if needed. I don’t seek fame and fortune, yet I want to feel appreciated. I love to listen, and I want to be listened to. Simply put, I want to be heard, in my own extroverted-introvert way.
For example, maybe if it’s one of those days I don’t want to be seen, I can still silently say, “I’m sporty and put-together,” while wearing cargo pants, a colorful fleece, a cute ball-cap and of course, a rosy lip balm. That way I’m covered and I don’t feel like a schlump.
But if my extroverted side were to be in command, you’d mostly likely hear me shouting I’m sassy, fun-loving and unique in my swing-dress, black leggings, combat boots and bomber jacket…. all without muttering a word.
Now it’s your turn. Imagine you’re on a stage in an auditorium filled with people. Stand there silently for 30 seconds. What would the audience hear? Are you happy with what you’re saying?
In Jen Coakley, owner of Jenskin Studio’s case, the audience would hear peacefulness, humor, kindness and low-key, sexy confidence
Audrey Watson, owner of Aucala Creative Co is silently saying I’m confident, fresh, articulate, and I have an eye for great style!
Lisa Baldino, owner of Turn of Phrase Marketing, silently exudes classic style, professionalism and savviness, while being extremely approachable.
And Bev Smith, Realtor and Listing Specialist with Tessier Real Estate is telling us she’s down-to-earth, warm, fun and knows her stuff.
I believe we all want to be heard, but what we silently say is up to us. I hope you rock it! ?
My Virtual Assistant (Richard Wilmore) and I recently ran a Facebook poll asking women if they owned a full-length mirror. The overwhelming response was YES, but I have to say from closet-editing experiences, approximately 35% of the clients I’ve worked with did not have one.
If you don’t own a full-length mirror, my question to you is how can you get the whole picture of your outfit? Ya can’t! You’re only getting half the picture.
So don’t leave the house like I’m about to do (bottom left) in an outfit that’s 1/2 polished and 1/2 crazy!
You can find full-length mirrors at Target, Wal-Mart, and numerous other places for under $20.00. Consider treating yourself to one. Get the picture?