You could ask 50 people this question and get 50 different answers. My job is to help my clients not only find their signature style, but also a style that will help them succeed in business and life. Keeping that in mind, I will answer this question as honestly and straight forward as possible.
Age appropriate dressing is knowing who you are and what you want to project to attract the right stuff into your life. It’s knowing you can dress youthfully without dressing young. It’s knowing you can be sassy without overdoing sexy. It’s knowing you can be more creative than in the past, while being considerate of the industry in which you work. It’s definitely NOT dressing a certain way because you have reached a certain age…
So here are my suggestions:
- Avoid extremes on either end of the too young or frumpy spectrum
Example – You have great legs and a current trend is a micro-mini – then opt for a shorter skirt a few inches above the knees! Keep your shirt/top a bit more conservative because you’re showing a little leg.
Example – You’re self conscious about your weight and you wear everything 2 sizes bigger than you actually are – STOP THAT RIGHT NOW!! This will make you look frumpy. I challenge you (if and when your budget allows) to purchase several staple pieces (you wear often) in your actual, true size. You will be pleasantly surprised.
Example – Your Mom gave you several dresses she doesn’t wear anymore. They’re in good condition, but your Mom’s body shape is different than yours and she’s 4 inches taller. As wonderful as your Mama is, wearing these dresses will most likely not be in your best interest. Things could get frumpy.
Example – You’re a size 2, same as your 16 year old daughter, but you’re 43 years old. You borrow her low or high-rise ripped-to-shreds jeans (destroyed) and crop top. As kickin’ as your bod is, this outfit won’t look the same on you. You’ll look like you’re trying too hard. Instead, try a mildly distressed jean (not destroyed) with shorter top, but cover your stomach. No worries, you’re still gonna sizzle.
- If you’re second guessing your outfit then….
Listen to your gut. Something is off and you won’t feel comfortable wearing it.
Remember, this is my opinion. Anyone can wear whatever the heck they want to, but in the real world we are judged on how we put ourselves out there. So let’s embrace our youthfulness and vibrancy, while ditching the frump or urge to compete with those 20 or 30 years our junior.